Have you ever wondered why you keep repeating the same patterns over and over again?

by | Nov 15, 2023 | Blind Spots, Featured, Insights, Neuroplasticity, NLP and Somatic Coaching

You think: I’m smarter than this. Or: I already learned this lesson. Or: Does it HAVE to be this hard?

Yes … you are smarter than this! And you did already learn this lesson! And no… it doesn’t have to be that hard!

It’s not your fault.


The reason we repeat patterns that no longer serve us is quite simple actually.

That constant, all-out “efforting” is the conscious mind on steroids, doing its best to override our deepest motivations.


Think of it this way:

    • Our conscious mind is our goal getter. It’s really, really good at identifying a goal, creating a project plan to achieve that goal, and activating the plan. It’s kind of like a dog with a bone. However….
    • Our unconscious mind is the goal setter. It’s where our values live and our deepest, truest motivation rules. It controls 90 percent of how we live our lives. And because it’s beneath our consciousness (most of the time), it’s invisible.

Imagine pursuing your goals all out, without first consulting what’s truly driving our actions, decisions and behaviors.

    • Externally, we’re all go, go, go.
    • And internally, it looks like this: What am I doing? Why do I think it’ll work this time? Didn’t I do exactly the same thing last week / month / year? Okay, I get it. I’ll just work harder.


This is “self-sabotage” at work. It’s kind of like setting out on a 6,000 mile cross-country drive without having your mechanic check anything under the hood.


So, how can I jump off the hamster wheel and make real, sustainable progress?


Truth: Traditional executive coaching focuses only on the conscious mind while completely ignoring the unconscious mind. I know this because it’s how I was trained and certified. And it’s what I did for years.


Now: I recognize the power of aligning and integrating the conscious and unconscious minds because I’ve experienced it myself. Many times over. It has shifted the way I see nearly everything. And my energy and drive have never been so clear and so powerful.


We all deserve this clarity. As do the people we manage, teach, develop, live with, love and support.


Schedule a complimentary Vision Strategy Call with me today to learn how to get that next level clarity working for you.

Tracy Benson

Tracy Benson, Founder and CEO, On the Next Page, provides executive coaching to senior leaders and their teams in Fortune 500 companies across industries, including: healthcare, pharma, energy, technology, consumer goods, manufacturing, hospitality, defense and financial.

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